Saturday, September 14, 2013

tweets - praise - kohn

Alfie Kohn (@alfiekohn)
9/14/13 6:44 AM
From the archives: How my critique of praise differs from social conservatives’ & from Carol Dweck’

Praise isn’t feedback (which is purely informational); it’s a judgment — and positive judgments are ultimately no more constructive than negative one

Some years after laying out these concerns, I came to realize that praise was troubling in yet another way: It signals conditional acceptance. Children learn that they’re valued — and, by implication, valuable — only when they live up to the standards of a powerful other. Attention, acknowledgment, and approval must be earned by doing a “job” that someone else decides is “good.” Thus, positive reinforcement is not only different from, but antithetical to, the unconditional care that children need: to be loved just for who they are, not for what they do. It’s no surprise that this strategy was designed to elicit certain behaviors rather than to promote children’s psychological health.

But the critical distinction between effort and ability doesn’t map neatly onto the question of praise. First of all, while it’s impossible to dispute Dweck’s well-substantiated contention that praising kids for being smart is counterproductive, praising them for the effort they’ve made can also backfire: It may communicate that they’re really not very capable and therefore unlikely to succeed at future tasks. (If you’re complimenting me just for trying hard, it must be because I’m a loser.) At least three studies have supported exactly this concern.

i was thinking more of the praise for effort exciting more effort.. of whatever they were doing .. rather than ongoingly.. questioning what they are doing as well

ie people see and think I'm working hard at this...
but does the this matter to me.. today?

Third, to the extent that we want to teach the importance of making an effort — the point being that people have some control over their future accomplishments — praise really isn’t required at all. (Dweck readily conceded this in a conversation we had some years ago. Indeed, she didn’t seem particularly attached to praise as a strategy and she willingly acknowledged its potential pitfalls

praise is more likely to function as a tool for imposing our will and eliciting compliance.

The problem is with our need for control, our penchant for placing conditions on our love, and our continued reliance on the long-discredited premises of behaviorism.

Dr Mani (@drmani)
9/14/13 6:48 AM
My growing portfolio of writing @Medium…

9/14/13 7:00 AM
Webinars & workshops & events, oh my! @NASAedu has lots of ways for you to join our #STEM#education adventure!

Global Voices (@globalvoices)
9/14/13 7:00 AM
Our weekly digest: A Window Into the “Real India”


oh man, packard plant may be headed to auction after all: Packard deal up in the air but not dead yet, officials say

Original Tweet: