brene brown

social work: lean into the discomfort of the work
if it's not measurable it doesn't exist

connection is why we're here, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives

unnamed thing that absolutely unraveled connection: shame
shame is the fear of disconnection
people who haven't experienced shame - have no capacity for human empathy or connection
no one wants to talk about it and the less you talk about it the more you have it
underpenned by: excruciating vulnarability
in order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, fully seen

after all her research - the only difference between those who had connection and those who didn't was their feeling of worthiness

what they had in common was a sense of courage: to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart
the courage to be imperfect
the compassion to care for themselves
they had connection as a result of authenticity
they fully embraced vunlerability
they believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful, it was necessary

research: study phenomenon in order to control and predict

we numb.. but you can't selectively numb emotion

i am enough.
we stop screaming and start listening.
we're kinder and gentler to others and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves

you are imperfect and wired for struggle
but you are worthy of love and understanding

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