detox via cain

talking about how you can perfect the shade of your thumbprint, to be the best you you can be. (my words)

and then ways to do just that..
and then;

in fact, a recent mri study shows that when people use self-talk (detox, no?) to reassess upsetting situation, activity in their prefrontal cortex increases in an amount correlated with a decrease of activity in their amygdala..  (in other words - able calmly blithe on.. no?)

then she (cain) refers to this as unlearning...


mcwilliams would be happy - detox - knowing what to do when you don't know what to do - as self-talk - as unlearning..
p. 118

interesting: when the cortex has other things to do than soothe an excitable amygdala

p. 119 - not true that i'm no longer shy, i've just learned to talk myself down from the ledge

ah sally - i hear you.

p. 218 - find your restorative niche.. the place where you can go to get back to you. via Little:
it can be a physical place, like the path beside the river, or a temporal one, like the quiiet breaks you plan between sales calls. it can mean canceling your social plans on the weekend before a big mtg at work, practicing yoga, or choosing email over in-person 

p. 219 - sitting a certain spot in a gathering - that little bit of physical distance felt more comfortable to me, and let me read the room and comment from a perspective ever so slightly removed..

p. 221 - one you need to strike free trait agreement with is - yourself...  - so you don't feel guilty when you take those restorative niches