p. 124:
To participate wholeheartedly in something means to be self-motivated and self-directed, intensely and genuinely enthusiastic. If we're forced to do something, or if we do it halfheartedly, we're not really participating. If we don't care how it all turns out, we're not really participating. If we're passively waiting it out, we're not really participating. And the less we fully participate in our everyday lives, the fewer opportunities we have to be happy. It's that plain and simple.
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